Some of us vowed to never leave. Some of us vowed to never be left. Both vows come from the same wound, and both lead to the same place: abandoning yourself to avoid abandonment.

January has always felt like a starting gun going off, whether I'm ready or not. This year, I didn't follow the familiar urge to plan, optimize, and sprint. I exhaled instead.

I treated my trauma like a renovation project. Then I stopped trying to fix myself and my abandonment wound and just sat with it. The relief was physical.

December is full of women white-knuckling their way through another holiday season, convinced that staying together for the kids is the right thing to do. But when I ask my clients what boundary they've sacrificed to keep the peace, they often look at me blankly, as if they've forgotten they were ever allowed to have needs at all. Your children are watching more closely than you think, and they're building their own templates for what love should look like.

I still catch myself folding under pressure in the most ordinary moments. Someone asks a question a little too sharply and my whole body sprints ahead of me, writing five possible replies at once. But one embarrassingly simple phrase has saved me from psyching myself out: "I need some time to think about this." It's the doorway between the part of me that panics and the part of me that chooses.

Discover why your nervous system can't tell the difference between real and imagined threats, and learn the Exhale-Explore-Engage method to break free from automatic defense patterns.

Drifting through the day like a wind-up toy can feel productive, but underneath the checkmarks, something essential might be missing. This piece explores how to recognize when you’ve lost touch with your values, and how to gently realign your life with what matters most.

Many of us swing from saying yes to everyone to saying no to everything. This “boundary pendulum” is normal, but staying stuck there isn’t freedom—it’s another trap. Learn how to move from reactive walls to responsive, authentic boundaries that protect your peace while keeping you connected.

I've moved fifteen times in the last twenty years. Each time, I'd unpack the same boxes, arrange the same furniture, and begin the familiar ritual of making a new place feel like home. But somewhere between addresses seven and eight, I started to realize something: the challenge wasn't just about hanging pictures or finding the perfect spot for my coffee table. It was about something much deeper. The real work wasn't making my house feel like home. It was finding my way bac

What is the true cost of disruption? This essay reveals the surprising parallels between OpenAI and open marriage and the human cost of reckless innovation.

Using AI for decision making is powerful, but what are its limits? Discover a practical framework for knowing when to rely on data and algorithms, and when your most complex choices require the irreplaceable depth of human wisdom.

Discover how to reconnect with your authentic voice using a simple 3-step method. Speak with clarity and courage, even when pressure clouds your truth.

Discover how to rewire your brain for smoother conflict resolution by interrupting automatic reactions and choosing conscious responses. Learn how neuroplasticity, emotional regulation, and your nervous system shape how you show up in high-stress moments.

What’s the real difference between coaching and therapy — and how do you know which one is right for you? In this post, I share why I chose coaching over becoming a licensed therapist (even after getting into top LMFT programs), what sets the two approaches apart, and how coaching helps people navigate big life transitions like divorce, co-parenting, and blended families. If you’ve ever wondered where coaching ends and therapy begins, or why this distinction matters, this is

Learn how to overcome limiting beliefs by spotting specific words like "should," "must," and "have to." Challenge these deeply ingrained thought patterns and free yourself from negative self-talk.

Feel stuck or powerless in conflict situations? Discover 'Flip the Script,' a powerful 4-step practice to help you interrupt autopilot reactions, manage internal and external disagreements, and start reclaiming your agency. Learn to move from reactive patterns to consciously chosen responses, empowering you to act with integrity and self-trust.

Ever wondered why small disagreements spiral into major fights? Conflicts with others often mirror internal tensions. Discover how understanding yourself can transform your relationships.

Is your life truly yours? Explore the hidden costs of misalignment & the path to authentic living.

Failure isn’t proof you’re not good enough—it’s proof you’re brave enough to try. It’s how you find your way.

Letting go isn’t giving up—it’s rising up. Stop waiting for change and start trusting what actions are already telling you.