Dear Newly Divorced You...

Hope is the essence...

I know you’re exhausted. Not just tired—bone-deep weary. The kind of tired that comes from carrying decisions, fears, responsibilities, and heartbreak all at once.

You’ve had to be brave while people around you offered opinions you never asked for.

You’ve had to make choices with no guarantees. You’ve had to hold yourself together when everything was falling apart.

And right now, newly divorced, you might be wondering if life will ever feel normal again. Or joyful. Or even just okay.

Let me tell you something no one told me:

You are not broken. You are becoming.

This is not the end of your story. It’s the beginning of a new one where you’re the main character again. Not someone’s spouse. Not just someone’s parent. You.

Right now, it might feel like you’ve lost everything. But what if what you’ve lost was only the container, and what’s coming next is the essence?

You will feel light again. You will laugh a laugh that’s real, not just polite. You’ll wake up one morning and realize you didn’t think about them first. You’ll walk into a room and know you belong, without shrinking or second-guessing.

You’ll redefine love on your terms. You’ll parent in a way that feels grounded and whole. You’ll build something stronger than you ever thought possible: a life you actually wanted all this time.

And that doesn’t mean it’s all smooth from here. Healing isn’t a checklist. It’s a messy, beautiful spiral. Two steps forward, one step sideways, and sometimes falling on your face and getting back up anyway.

But I promise you—if you stay with yourself, choose yourself, and allow yourself to dream again—you will be okay. Not just okay. Powerful.

You already are.

With love,

Someone who’s been there

P.S. If you need some extra support with finding your way back to you, please feel free to reach out.