Something you can't see yet is running your life.
It's the automatic reactions shaping your conflicts, influencing your decisions, and interfering with your relationships. I help you see what's driving them so you can choose differently.
It often starts with Pattern Synthesis, where I use multiple systems to analyze your unique blueprint. From there, we use the Exhale-Explore-Engage® Method to work with what we find in real time.
Do you have the courage to see it?
PATTERN SYNTHESIS
You have a question that logic can't answer. Why this relationship? Why does this keep happening? What is this really about? You submit your details and your question. I analyze your unique blueprint using multiple systems, we meet, and I show you what I see. You come in confused. You leave with clarity.
Divorce & conflict
Something in you already knows what's true. The work is learning to hear it clearly enough to act on it. Whether you're navigating divorce, a difficult relationship, or a situation that keeps pulling you away from who you are, we find the pattern underneath and work from there until what's true becomes impossible to ignore.
new ways for families®
Raising kids across the wreckage of a relationship is one of the hardest things a person can do. This program teaches co-parents the real skills for real moments. When you sign up, you get practical tools to use the next time things get hard, and a way of showing up for your kids that you can actually be proud of.
Why I Do This Work
I didn't have a breakthrough moment. There was no single conversation that changed everything, no rock bottom, no lightning bolt. What happened was a gradual, slow tipping of the scales from fear toward truth. I was living the script: a decades-long corporate career at companies like Google, a solid marriage, kids, the whole picture. And underneath it, something was quietly nagging at me.
So I started testing the edges. I left the lucrative tech career. I experimented with open relationships. I walked away from the version of my life that looked correct from the outside and had no idea where I'd land. Where I landed surprised me: back in a traditional marriage, inside a blended family with more kids than I thought I would ever have, doing work that actually means something, because I finally understood what I'd been running from. The pattern had a name. And once I could see it, the scale tipped permanently from fear to truth.
Living from the truth is what made everything else possible. And it's what I help my clients do.
My Method: Exhale–Explore–Engage®
1
Exhale
Before anything else, we pause. We start with a breath, a long exhale, a genuine interruption of whatever has been running on loop. With the breath, we create space to notice. You can't see a pattern clearly from the inside.
2
Explore
With space comes curiosity. We look at what's actually driving the situation — the values underneath the conflict, the truth underneath the reaction, the need that's been buried under years of managing everyone else's feelings.
3
Engage
This is where we flip the script. With clarity about what's actually true, you stop reacting from the pattern and start choosing from your truth. That's a bigger shift than it sounds. Most people have never done it.