new ways for families® Coaching
An evidence-based program from the High Conflict Institute, combined with private coaching to help you practice the skills in real situations. Flexible thinking, managed emotions, moderate behaviors. Not as abstract concepts. As things you can actually do the next time things get hard.
Why I Do This Work
I didn't have a breakthrough moment. There was no single conversation that changed everything; instead, it was a gradual, slow tipping of the scales from fear toward truth. I was living the dream: a decades-long corporate career at companies like Google, a solid marriage, kids, great social life... But something felt off.
So I started testing the edges. I left the lucrative tech career. I experimented with open relationships. I walked away from the version of my life that looked correct from the outside and had no idea where I'd land. Where I landed surprised me: back in a traditional marriage, inside a blended family with more kids than I thought I would ever have, doing work that actually means something, because I finally understood what I'd been running from. The pattern had a name. And once I could see it, the scale tipped permanently from fear to truth.
Living from the truth is what made everything else possible. And it's what I help my clients do.
My Method: Exhale–Explore–Engage®
1
Exhale
Before anything else, we pause. We start with a breath, a long exhale, a genuine interruption of whatever has been running on loop. With the breath, we create space to notice. You can't see a pattern clearly from the inside.
2
Explore
With space comes curiosity. We look at what's actually driving the situation — the values underneath the conflict, the truth underneath the reaction, the need that's been buried under years of managing everyone else's feelings.
3
Engage
This is where we flip the script. With clarity about what's actually true, you stop reacting from the pattern and start choosing from your truth. That's a bigger shift than it sounds. Most people have never done it.